When we
first told family and friends about our intentions to take our family on a 1yr
backpacking trip across South East Asia, we were surprised by the negativity we received. Some people even went so far
as to say that we ‘were going to get the children killed’, especially by going
to some of the developing countries on our itinerary.
In our
day and age, on one hand the world is a ‘smaller place’ due to ease and
accessibility of travel. Yet on the
other, the threat of terrorism and general fear of the unknown while traveling,
particularly with a family, keep most people from chasing their dreams. Other excuses such as waiting until the
children get older or for more financial security also crop up.
But this
past weekend, a day after returning home from our wonderful family holiday in
Bali, we got some life-changing news: my only sister was killed in a freak accident.
It happened in Canada, a ‘safe’ country, while going for a leisurely
drive in the country with her family.
At 36 years
of age, she has been taken from this world much too soon.
But it
gives me some peace to know she led a fulfilling life, full of zest and a sense
of adventure --a life with no regrets, especially after the long awaited birth
of her 2 boys. She had a great education
that led to a successful career, through which she met her future husband. They
both loved to travel and even took a year off to visit places of their dreams
such as Africa, South America, Europe, Egypt, India, SE Asia, China, and
Australia. Even after their first child
was born, she and her husband made the 20ish hour journey to visit us in
Australia, with child in tow. And after the recent birth of their second child,
they travelled by air to San Diego for a holiday. They were even on a short-getaway at the time
of her death. She didn’t do things by
half-measures, and always did her best by all the people she knew and
loved. Above all, she loved her husband
and children the most.
With Auntie in Melbourne, December 2010 just before we left on our trip. |
All the
cliché’s in life are true: ‘Life is too
short’; ‘Only the good die young’; ‘Live
life to the fullest’; ‘You only live
once’; ‘The only thing to fear is fear
itself’.
Try to
not put off chasing your dreams, especially if it is to travel the world. But most importantly make time for the people
and the things that you love. Don’t let
fear of the unknown stop you-- bad things can happen to you anywhere,
anytime. As the RCMP (Royal Canadian Mounted Police) put it, her accident was ‘an act of God’. I know He will take care of her now; may she
rest in peace.
My thoughts are with you and your sister's family.
ReplyDeleteI'm so terribly sorry for your loss.
ReplyDelete-Nishu
Thank you Nishu
DeleteI am so sorry for your loss. A harsh reminder of how precious life is.
ReplyDeleteThank you--a very harsh reminder indeed :(
DeleteI am so sorry for your loss. I have followed your blog but never commented before. We are currently on a year of travel with my four children and have found so many of your posts so useful. Thanks for sharing and may God comfort you at this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteThanks Elaine. I hope you are enjoying your trip!
DeleteI am so sorry to read this. Your sister sounds like an amazing woman, sister, wife, mother, person. I hope that you are surrounded in love and support at this time. Thinking of you, your family and especially your brother in law and nephews.
ReplyDeleteThank you--my sister really was an amazing woman who was taken too soon.
DeleteMy sympathies to you and your family. I have heard how fully your sister embraced life. I actually run with a mom-friend who lives next door to your late sister's family.
ReplyDeleteI stumbled upon your blog today via a few other family travel blogs. My husband and I are planning a world adventure with our three children in 2014. I am grateful for the families who blog and share so many resources and ideas.
Catharine
Catharine--I am so glad that you found us, but what a small world it is! Please email me directly--would love to hear more about your plans and about 'our connection'.
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Jessica,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry and sad to hear this news. I see how much you love and respect your sister. I am amazed and in awe of you that in this difficult time, you can see the positive and celebrate her life. I am sending you a lot of love, prayers and blessings.
-Lauren (from NYC whom you gave LOADS of great advice to)
Thanks Lauren--good to hear from you again.
DeleteMy prayers of comfort go out to you and your loved ones - thank you for sharing your journey of life with us, your sister will live on through your travels and positive living!
ReplyDeleteStay Blessed!
Bernard
Thank you Bernard.
DeleteSending your family much aloha. From experience, I know the wound stays fresh, especially so soon after as you go through different kinds of milestones ("One year since...", "This would've been the day that..."). But experience has also taught me that we can overcome and find meaningful ways to let even the deepest sorrows transform us and even grant us peace. Life is still beautiful. Your sister was a shining example of that, and families are forever.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your aloha Tiare, you are very right about the different milestones, but i know it will that will become less acute with time. yes, life is still beautiful, and i have many blessings despite the many heartaches. x
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